Mosaic Minds 02: When You Know the Right Call and They Don't
Featuring: Wealth GPS
Hi Reader,
It’s Hari. This week, it is my pleasure to introduce Elizabeth Blake, a former Certified Financial Planner with 25+ years of experience guiding hundreds of families and thousands of investors through real financial decisions.
She has written three vignettes guiding her clients through incredibly tough decisions. Her vulnerability and honesty deeply resonated with me.
Thank you for sharing, Elizabeth.
There’s a moment every financial advisor dreads: You’re sitting across from someone – a client, a team member, sometimes a person you love - and you can see it. Clearly. The bridge to walk across is out. You ran the numbers, read the room, lived through enough versions of this story to know exactly how it ends. And they’re nodding at you with the particular confidence of someone who has already decided, and is now simply waiting for you to finish talking.
Call it the gap – the distance between what you can see and what the person across from you is ready to hear. The gap is where leadership actually happens. Not in the confident announcement or the clean decision, but in the uncertain space between I know, and they’re not there yet.
The gap has three dangerous edges. Push too hard, and the person digs in; you lose the relationship and any chance of helping. Yield too easily, and you become a nodding validator, watching preventable harm unfold with your permission. Or you push with full conviction and discover you were wrong. That the certainty you mistook for clarity was just confidence.
I spent 25 years as a Certified Financial Planner, leading myself through uncertainty, a small team through real change, and clients through some of the most consequential decisions of their lives. I’ve come to believe this work shows up at every level – in how you handle your own hardest choices, how you show up for people close to you, how you behave when someone needs a guide more than they need agreement. Three stories. None of them is clean.
I. The founder who couldn’t let go: He was self-made, sharp, and knew – in the way you know things you’re not ready to say out loud – that it was time to step back. Every metric confirmed it. His own words confirmed it, in unguarded moments. And yet timelines kept moving, new reasons to wait kept appearing.
What I understood slowly, then all at once: I was asking him to make two decisions simultaneously. The financial one was straightforward. And the existential one, which had no spreadsheet. That company wasn’t an asset. It was the answer he’d given every morning for decades to the question of who he was. Selling it wasn’t a transaction. It was a kind of death.
I made mistakes. There were sessions where I pushed the logic harder than the moment called for, felt him retreating, and kept going anyway because I was right about the numbers and confused that with being right about him.
What eventually moved him wasn’t a better argument. It was a different question: What do you want your life to look like when you’re no longer responsible for this? The decision followed – not cleanly, not at my timeline. The gap wasn’t closed by being right. It was crossed by staying present long enough for him to find his own footing.
II. The client who made the wrong call anyway: He was over-concentrated in a single stock, his former employer trusted with the specific blindness that comes from building your career inside something. I showed him the math, the history, the asymmetric risk. He heard me. He didn’t move.
The stock collapsed.
There is a specific quality to the call you receive from someone you tried to protect, calling from inside the damage. I didn’t revise my prior position to make it easier on both of us. I told him directly what I had recommended and why. I told him we were going to figure out the solution together. And we did. He stayed a client for another decade because I didn’t become a stranger when being right stopped being comfortable.
Sitting with the mess of that decision and its consequences clarified something: people can survive making the wrong call. What they don’t easily survive is making it on their own.
III. The team that was terrified: When I began planning my succession – bringing in two younger partners to eventually take over my practice – my team of long-tenured assistants went quiet. Productivity dropped. The energy changed. They were too professional to say what they were afraid of, so they said nothing, which was considerably louder.
I had a choice that felt logistical but was actually about what I believed guidance to be. I could manage the optics - keep negotiations private, let reassurance trickle down in careful increments.
Or I could do something riskier: bring them in. Not to the deal terms but to a different conversation entirely. I asked them what they wanted the practice to look like when the transition was complete. We called it “Vision Daydreaming.” The incoming partners were in the room.
Something shifted. Their fears hadn’t disappeared, but now their energy had somewhere to go besides dread. They stopped being subjects of a change being executed around them and became, in some real sense, its architects. The gap wasn’t between a client and me. It was between the future I could see and the one my team was afraid to imagine. Crossing it didn’t require a better plan. It required changing who was in the room when the plan was being shaped.
What the gap asks of you: These three situations look different on the surface. Underneath, they share the same demand: stay present inside the discomfort without forcing resolution or abandoning your conviction. Hold the ‘I believe I can see something you can’t yet.’ Push without forcing. Guide without steering.
This is what separates the people who last – as advisors, managers, partners, guides – from those who are just endured. Not superior judgment, though that matters. Not confidence, though you need it. The thing that actually separates them is harder to name: they’re still in the room when it gets difficult. They didn’t know how the story ended, but they decided, somewhere, that showing up through the mess was the job.
The people who most need your guidance will remember, long after they’ve forgotten your advice, whether you were still there when it cost you something to be.
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Thank you for the warm introduction and the opportunity to share these thoughts with your audience, Hari!
I’ve long admired how you use Mental Mosaic to explore the intersections of business and human psychology. It was a pleasure to share with your readers these imperfect stories about the gap between clarity and conviction.
The collaboration Substack was waiting for…!